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I suddenly felt less crazy. But I felt sick to my stomach.**\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\n\nDating is hard. It feels harder doing it {{button nobtn=\u00221\u0022 link=\u0022https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/sober-singles\u0022 text=\u0022sober somehow\u0022 title=\u0022sober somehow\u0022}}. It is a process of acute awareness and relearning how to have a functional and healthy relationship. You have to re-learn what healthy boundaries work for you; you discover that the co-dependency train didn\u2019t miss your stop after all and it is just as much a feature of your disease of addiction as everyone else\u2019s. And you re-learn how to effectively communicate with your partner. New relationships require navigation: of meeting your needs while also meeting the needs of a new romantic endeavor\u2014all the while feeling like a teenager again. They are not easy, which is why it is suggested you steer clear in your first year of recovery.\n\nImagine doing all that sobriety work, dating a number of frogs, and then finding a guy that made you feel different. Someone who got you. A guy that made you feel like you\u2019ve never felt before: desired, interesting, funny, and sexy. I was radiant and I felt incredible. It was like it was too good to be true.\n\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022**Sponsored Ads**  \nLooking For Lonely Singles? Try Loveawake Free Dating Site:  \n[[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Bahrain-dating-service.html?page=48 Dating App For Lonely in Bahrain]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Ireland-dating-service.html?page=48 Irish Lonely Mates]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Norway-dating-service.html?page=48 Lonely Singles in Norway]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Malta-dating-service.html?page=48 Lonely in Malta]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Oman-dating-service.html?page=48 Alone In Oman]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/New-Zealand-dating-service.html?page=48 Dating Site For Lonely People In New Zealand]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\nIt was.\n\nMy experience of the relationship turned into a rollercoaster that speedily navigated the rise of desire and passion, and the lows of doubt, depression, anxiety, and changes in behavior. I began questioning myself. It felt like he was blowing hot and cold, but I wasn\u2019t sure if this was my expectations being too high\u2014was I expecting it to be great all the time? I didn\u0027t have an experience of a healthy relationship so I had nothing to compare it to. But I knew my instincts were telling me something was wrong and that this kind of relationship doesn\u2019t work for me. My recovery is predicated upon balance and striving for a straightforward and flowing life, one which flows toward awareness, self-improvement, and growth. This was a rollercoaster.\n\nAfter another turbulent exchange and cooling off period, I\u2019m told the reason for the rollercoaster: my boyfriend had been taking hard drugs and omitted to tell me during four months of our relationship\u2014despite knowing I was in long-term recovery.\n\nMy world came crashing down.\n\nI was flummoxed and heartbroken. I couldn\u2019t believe that I hadn\u2019t seen the signs of drug use.\n\nThen came the unravelling.\n\nHow could I miss the signs? I am so stupid! He knew I was in recovery! How could he not tell me? Have I been around drugs? These were some of the questions I repeatedly asked myself.\n\nMy mind went into overdrive, unpacking everything over the past four months. Everything began to make sense: depression, silence, hyperactivity, lack of money, looking withdrawn, the seesaw of interest versus\u2014what appeared as\u2014apathy. I suddenly felt less crazy. But I felt sick to my stomach. I couldn\u2019t eat and my head was in a spin.\n\nIt is important for me to acknowledge that he didn\u2019t intentionally lie to me\u2014I could see it must have been difficult to tell someone in established recovery that you have been using drugs\u2014but he omitted a very important truth. A truth that could\u2019ve jeopardized my recovery by putting me in a situation where drugs had been used. I was around drug-type behavior and drama that I had intentionally removed from my life when I found recovery. In my mind, omission is a form of dishonesty. A solid and long-lasting relationship cannot be founded upon dishonesty. Trust is paramount.\n\nI was torn between what I knew about hard drug use\u2014and its incompatibility in a relationship with someone in recovery\u2014and losing someone I had developed strong feelings for. To some people this is a black and white decision: if you want to keep yourself safe and avoid a lot of drama, end the relationship. It wasn\u2019t so straightforward for me--because of my feelings, because he had stopped, and because part of me saw some hope that it could work out.\n\nWas I na\u00efve? Possibly.\n\nBefore I made any decisions, I had to understand the nature and extent of the drug use. I gave him the opportunity to talk and I discovered it was sporadic and it had stopped two weeks prior\u2014which seemed inconsistent with addiction. I knew that I couldn\u2019t have a relationship with someone in active addiction, but I could potentially with someone who had stopped their sporadic drug use and had insight into their behavior.\n\nI then checked in with my support network: my doctor, a drug worker, and friends with long-standing recovery. I explained the situation and asked for advice and support. I listened and considered their comments and concerns. I cannot underestimate the importance of my solid support network, but they cannot tell me what to do. With this information, I was able to make a more informed decision, with some objective perspectives from people who were not emotionally involved.\n\nI next considered if this relationship is something I wanted\u2014irrespective of what others thought what was right or wrong for me. I had to decide what felt right for me. Ultimately, I wanted to give things a go. For the purposes of sharing my experience, I made that decision because I had strong feelings for him, I saw a future, he had already stopped using drugs and I believed that, and I didn\u2019t think he was a person struggling with addiction. I was also reminded of how many chances people have given me.\n\nHaving made that decision, I considered my boundaries: that I could not date someone who used drugs\u2014that was incompatible with my recovery; that I need him to seek help and support for that drug use; and that my recovery, safety, and sanity comes before the relationship.\n\nI explained these boundaries and that any reconciliation would take time. While I appreciated that his dishonesty was not intentional, his actions and omissions hurt me and I needed to heal. Trust would have to be rebuilt and that would be slow. With this new level of openness, I was able to keep expressing my feelings which strengthened the rebuilding of the relationship.\n\nIn terms of keeping my recovery strong, I made sure that I had all of the support and means of expression that I needed to sustain my recovery. I maintained meeting attendance, continued to speak to recovery friends frequently, journaled and checked in with myself, and looked after my mental and physical health. This came above everything else.\n\nChoosing to stay hasn\u2019t been easy. I have questioned my decision, doubted, and experienced heightened senses. I have been suspicious. But I realized that if I am truly to give this a go, I needed to draw a line under what has happened and give things a try wholeheartedly. A good friend of mine says to me that trust is not the absence of doubt. I don\u2019t have to forget, but I can move on, with a wiser perspective. The truth is that no one can tell you what to do in this situation\u2014only you can\u2014but I can tell you that the most important decision for me was to keep my recovery safe, whatever I decided.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-06-04","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-06-04","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"WhatToDoWhenYouDiscoverYourNewBoyfriend","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-06-04 12:22:06","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2025-06-04 12:22:43","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-06-04\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-06-04\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022WhatToDoWhenYouDiscoverYourNewBoyfriend\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-06-04 12:22:06\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-06-04 12:22:43\u0022 ","owner":"","url":"https:\/\/lhd6376.webmo.fr\/doryphore\/?WhatToDoWhenYouDiscoverYourNewBoyfriend"}}